There is one thing that's inevitable… death.
有一件大家都无法避免的事 ── 死亡
Someday you'll breath your final breath, before kicking the proverbial bucket.
How much time you have is anyone's guess, so it's important to make the most of life.
Live it to the fullest, do all the things you dream to do, and exit the world with no regrets.
But then most of us go about our day as if we'll live forever; putting off what's really important until tomorrow.
Today we'll be looking at those things we never get around to doing, in this episode of The Infographics Show: 10 things old people say they regret not doing in their life.
今天我们将要来介绍我们从未做过的事,在这集 The Infographics Show：年长者分享 10 件人生中后悔没做过的事
Steve Jobs was a visionary who left his mark on the world.
His company Apple revolutionized the personal computing world with the invention of the mac, changed the way we listen to music with the launch of the IPod, and connected the world when the first IPhone was released.
他的电脑公司透过发明了苹果电脑彻底改变了个人计算机的世界，改变了我们使用 IPod 听音乐的方式以及用 IPhone 与世界连结
Jobs himself was known for his energetic approach to life, inspiring people with his motivational speeches.
Did he have any regrets?
You would think not, and his attitude towards death hints that he likely had none.
On his deathbed, Jobs looked at his sister Patty, then at his children, then at his life partner, Laurene, and then over their shoulders past them, before uttering his final words,
在贾伯斯临终前，看着他的妹妹 Patty，然后他的孩子，然后是他的生活伴侣 Laurene然后视线越过他们的肩膀，说出最后的话：
“Oh wow, oh wow, oh wow”.
His sister, Mona Simpson, described his tone as affectionate, dear and loving.
他的妹妹 Mona Simpson 将其发出的声音解释为深情、充满关爱和爱的
Though Jobs left the world early at the age of 56, it certainly seems that he did so without regret.
But then Steve Jobs is not your everyday kind of person.
He led an extraordinary life.
What about those of us who will pass away without feeling that we have properly completed the journey?
It seems that many of the regrets people have are the same.
Looking at what the media says and the real life experiences of doctors and nurses who spend time with old people at the end of their life, here are the top ten most common regrets that we came across.
注意影片说的内容以及在年长者最后人生阶段常陪伴于其左右的医生、护理师的生活经历这里是 10 大常见后悔没做的事我们会遇到的
第 10 件
I wish I had learned a second language – Somewhat surprisingly, many people depart the world wishing they had learnt a second language.
我希望我有学过第二种语言 ── 有点意外，许多在离开人世间以前希望有学过第二种语言
Maybe they feel they would have been able to connect with more people in life if they spoke more than one language, or that travel to other countries and mixing with different cultures would have been easier.
It could also be that learning languages used to be much harder than it is today with heaps of internet resources, online classes, and language apps- so this regret should not exist for much longer, as you really don't have any excuses for not following through and learning a language, if that's something you wish to do.
第 9 件
I wish I hadn't worked so hard - Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives.
我希望我没这么努力工作过 ─ Bronnie Ware 是一位澳洲护士她花了几年时间于安宁治疗的工作，照顾剩约 12 周生命的病人
She was quoted in British newspaper, The Guardian, saying that this regret came from every male patient she had nursed.
英国报纸 The Guardian 甚至引用她的话 ─ 这是所有她所照护的所有男性病患后悔的事
Because of working so hard, many people felt that they missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship.
Some women also spoke of this regret, but as most of the people she nursed were from an older generation, when women tended to spend their lives at home running the house and being mothers, this regret was much more common with men.
有些女性病患也有相同的后悔，但大部份 Bronnie Ware 照顾的病患皆来自较老的世代，而那时的女人倾向待在家做家务并扮演母亲的角色，因此这件后悔的事在男性比较常见。
That's now changed of course, so it's likely that in the future, this regret will be high on the list for both men and women.
第 8 件
I wish I had been better at expressing how I felt – Bronnie also said that many of her patients expressed regret that they suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others.
我希望我擅长表达我的感受 ─ Bronnie 也有提到很多她的病患后悔为了与他人和平相处而压抑了自身的情感。
Because of this, they never accomplished the things they wanted to.
Some of her patients even developed illnesses due to the bitterness they carried around as a result of hiding their true feelings.
Dr Barton Goldsmith who writes for online magazine Psychology Today says that when you express how you really feel, problems get solved, relationship issues get resolved, and life is easier.
Barton Goldsmith 博士是线上杂志 Psychology Today 的一个作者，说过当你表达你真实的感受，问题将得到解决，关系问题也将得到改善而生活会更容易
You will also enjoy your life more because you're not holding on to unhealed or confusing feelings.
第 7 件
I wish I had taken better care of my body – if you don't look after your body, your time to leave will come much faster, so it's no surprise that many people express this regret on their deathbed.
我希望我有好好照顾我的身体 ── 如果你没有好好照顾身体生命终点很快就会来到，因此这不意外许多人将这件事列为临终前后悔的事
Obesity, smoking, or excessive drinking, can all drive you to an early death.
Most things in life can be replaced.
A new car or a new house, but you can't nip down to the shop and buy a new replacement body.
So if this is one regret you think you might have when your time is up, it's probably better to make some changes today.
第 6 件
I wish I had been more selective with my romantic relationships – One of the most common fears that people have in life is never meeting their soulmate.
我希望我在伴侣的选择上能更深思熟虑 ─ 人一生中其中一件最恐惧的事情是，从未遇见他的灵魂伴侣
The person they are meant to spend the rest of their life with.
And of course this can show up when death is near, with the regret that life was spent with the wrong lover.
Maybe a person has been in a toxic or abusive relationship, or they walked away from the person they were meant to be with.
Many stay in relationships because they worry they may end up alone at the end of life,
but when they do reach the end, some of these people are suddenly faced with regret that the romantic choices they made may have been incorrect.
So if you think you're in this zone, maybe now is the time to get back to swiping on Tinder so you have no regrets in later life.
所以如果你也有这种情况的话，或许是时候去 Tinder 网站再试着找其他人让自己的人生没有后悔
第 5 件
I didn't need to worry so much – Karl Pillemer, a Professor of Human Development at Cornell University and the author of “30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans, spoke to nearly 1,500 elderly people asking them one simple question: “What are the most important lessons you have learned over the course of your life?”
我不应该担心太多事情的 ─ Karl Pillemer，康乃尔大学人类发展学系教授也是「生命中的 30 个教训：来自最聪明美国人的尝试与建议」的作者将其告诉 1500 位年长者，并问他们一个简单问题「在你一生的生活中学到最重要的教训是什么 ? 」
One of the most common responses he received was people saying they wish they had not worried so much.
One example is John Alonzo, an 83 year old man who had been a construction worker, and who had battled a lifetime of financial insecurity.
以一位 83 岁男性年长者 John Alonzo 举例说明，他是一位建筑工人而他终其一生都在为财务困难而奋斗。
But he didn't think twice in giving this advice: Don't believe that worrying will solve or help anything.
So stop it.
That was it- his one life lesson was simply to stop worrying.
这就是他的一个生活教训 ─ 停止担心
第 4 件
I wish I had spent more time outside of my comfort zone – To quote Albert Einstein
我希望我有多花一点时间在我的舒适圈外 ─ 引用爱因斯坦的话
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”
And if you spend a life doing the same thing over and over, waiting for something exciting to happen, then it probably won't.
Exciting things happen when you get out there and make them happen.
But it's often easier said than done, and many of us stick close to comfort in the hope of an easier life.
So when you reach the end and you're looking back on it as a whole, you'll be much more proud if you can say that the most unease you felt was that day you went skydiving,
not the time you had to choose whether to eat meat or fish at dinner.
第 3 件
I could have given back more – Most of us will wait until the bank account is stacked up with cash before deciding to give a few dollars to the local charity, but it seems people find themselves on their deathbed regretting that they didn't give more.
我希望我回馈更多 ── 大部份的人都会等到银行户头充满现金后，才会决定要回馈一些现金给慈善团体但人们似乎在临终前通常会后悔没有给多一点。
Giving does not need to be about money though.
More often it's about helping and supporting others with what you can offer as a human being, and expecting nothing in return.
Maybe you have useful skills, or sometimes just a listening ear.
Imagine you're attending your own funeral, and you hear a friend giving your eulogy.
What would you want them to be saying?
Most likely you would want to hear them talk about what a great person you were, and how you had an impact on their life.
There's only one way to ensure you get a eulogy of this kind, and that's by giving back and by helping others.
第 2 件
I wish I pursued my dreams and aspirations, and not the life others expected of me – One of the most common regrets we found was this one: people who had arrived at the end of their life and had missed out on many of their hearts desires because they were too busy living up to what others expected of them.
Our nurse Bronnie Ware said that most people had not honored even half of their dreams,
我们的 Bronnie Ware 护士也有提到，大部份的人在临终前甚至没有正视他们一半的梦想
and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made, because of how others might judge them.
There is a freedom that comes with being close to death, but often that freedom is also when you realize the things you missed out on.
So if you have things you feel you should be doing…today, not tomorrow, is when to act.
第 1 件
I wish I had spent more time with people I care about – Many of us get caught up in the daily activities of life.
我希望我有花更多时间与我在乎的人相处 ─ 大部份的人都被日常生活绑住了
Working, shopping, raising the kids, holidays.
It's hard not to be consumed by the endless cycle, but then later in life, we're faced with not having spent enough quality time with friends and family.
With all the research we looked at online, this is the most common regret.
Everyone misses their friends & family when they reach the end, and they start to regret not spending more time with them in life.
It can also work in reverse, where the people who are left behind also feel the regret.
In 2014, when President Obama spoke at a town hall meeting at Malaya University in Kuala Lumpur, he said.
"I regret not having spent more time with my mother.
She died early, she got cancer right around when she was my age, actually, she was just a year older than I am now.
It happened very fast, in about six months."
Obama's mother, Ann Dunham, died in 1995 of ovarian cancer at age 52, when Obama was 34.
欧巴马的母亲 Ann Dunham 死于 1995 年，因为卵巢癌，享年 52 岁，当欧巴马 34 岁时
Well, that's our list of 10 things old people say they regret not doing in their life.
好，那就是我们全部将提到的 10 件年长者后悔没做到的事
There are of course many more.
So, how do you intend to live a life without regrets?